Developing Your Inner Game by Cajun

This is a very inspirational post by Cajun on Inner game and your own personal belief system. I wanted to post it here so I could re-read it over and over again until the mindset sinks in.

Developing Inner Game by Cajun

Inner game is probably one of the most popular subjects in the community. It’s a major sticking point for nearly everyone who has trouble talking to women and it’s a problem that can be difficult to fix as well, since it tends to be rooted in a lifetime’s worth of negative beliefs that are based on things like fear and rejection. Inner game is also a topic that I think can only be discussed from a personal level, that is, I can’t convince you how to think or look at life differently, only you can, but I can tell you how I overcame the very same problems, and hope that you can learn from my experiences.

So what is it?

To me, inner game problems boils down to two things: your experience and your mindset. Every problem you run into with not just women, but life itself, can be attributed to one of these two areas. I’m going to get into both of these, and give some personal insights, so hopefully by the end of this article you’ll have a clearer understanding of what exactly it is that you need to work on to fix your own issues.

Experience:

When people ask me how I developed my “Rock solid confidence”, I always answer the same; “Practice”. When you think about what confidence actually is you realize that its simply doing something that you’ve done enough times to be comfortable with. It’s only when were thrown into situations that are unfamiliar to us that we start to lose confidence in ourselves. The sad and somewhat ironic reality is that most men are not comfortable talking to women simply because they don’t talk to women! It’s a negative feedback loop that’s perpetuated by a fear of “what might go wrong”. This is bullshit! To be scared of the possible negative outcomes is to be scared of the very thing that enables you to get better!

Think about it this way; when you were learning to ride a bike, were you too scared to get on because of a fear that you might fall down? Maybe, but you got on anyway because you saw how much fun all the other kids were having, even then you realized that the reward was worth the risk. Well this is the same thing, I remember when I first started out with this stuff I used to get drinks thrown in my face, told off, or simply ignored. The first few weeks were rough; it took me a while before I got used to rejection enough that I could understand where I went wrong. Getting used to rejection isn’t easy, but the best advice I can give you is to simply accept it, don’t get mad at her or yourself, don’t go home, just accept that it’s a completely normal, and necessary part of the learning process. You can’t make an omelette without breaking some eggs. The sooner you realize that rejection is a necessary evil, the sooner you can come to terms with it and move past it.

Mind Set:

Most of us grew up in a society that believed in a 2 concentric circle model of reality. That is, the outer circle being reality, or the world around us, and the inner circle being our consciousness. We experience the outer circle; reality, through our inner circle; our consciousness. This is how we believed reality worked; that our consciousness was independent of it…but recently this all changed.

We are now learning through quantum physics that reality is actually the inner circle, and that our consciousness is the outer circle. That is; reality exists inside our mind, we create our own reality with our thoughts (Or beliefs, if you’d rather).

What does this mean?

As far as any of us know, there may only be 1 reality; your own. Who’s to say I’m not a figment of your imagination, your reality, writing this entire article out to send a message to YOU, from your subconscious mind. It’s possible.

The truth is, whether any of us actually exist or not is irrelevant. Life is a game, and it’s a game that a lot of people are scared to play. Don’t be one of them.

I recently received an email from a student of mine asking about the power of beliefs, and how they work. I replied with the following:

“Think of it this way: what if, let’s say, 15 years from now programmers invent this computer game that is virtually identical to reality. The AI is so smart you can’t tell it’s not a real person. The five senses are so accurately programmed that there is no detectable difference to reality. Now, you get to play this game, but the programmer tells you some hints on how to play, he says this:

“This software is programmed to work intuitively with your brain. So, if you want to be, let’s say, a rich Casanova in the game, then all you have to do is believe that you ARE a rich Casanova, and you will become one. The trick is you have to actually believe it, and then the program takes care of the rest. In fact you can have, and be anything you want in this program as long as you ask for it using these “beliefs”. Think of it as your “console hack”"

I’m sure you saw this coming, but this “game” already exists and it’s called reality. You become who you believe you are.”

Sound a little like the matrix? Well that’s ok, like I said; I can only give advice on inner game from my own personal perspective and this is simply how I believe reality works.

I’ll end this article with something that I’ve never written about before:

I remember the very night that I became good at attracting women, I remember because I had an epiphany that night and it was so mind-blowing that I had to write it down as soon as I came home. It has since become my mantra, and I know that if down the road I ever forget everything that I’ve learned in the past few years, all I will have to do is read this piece of paper and it will all come back. What does the paper say?

“The secret to becoming amazing at attracting women is…to remember that you already are.”

Your welcome,

Cajun.

I've not updated this for a long time

Hey I realised today I haven't updated this blog in quite a while so I wanted to let you know what I was up to.

- I finally joined a gym and I feel a lot fitter because of it.

- I've been working in the last few months at expanding and gaming my social circle and I'm starting to see an improvement. Girls are giving me IOI's after only a short time in conversation because I'm now comfortable kinoing & teasing them from the very beginning.

- My self confidence is a lot stronger and more rock solid than its ever been before. My inner game seems to have gotten a lot stronger recently which I'm really pleased about.

- I'm also casually dating a girl I met in a club a month or so ago.

As you can see things are going a lot better than they were three months ago. I can feel myself getting stronger (both mentally and physically) it feels like I'm in some realistic RPG video game. I just need to keep levelling up

Heartwork's Myspace Method

Taken from: http://www.theattractionforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=32638

All right, I have an injured ankle so I haven't got out as much as I would like lately. I figured this would be a great time to perfect my online game. I feel I have somewhat done that now and after months of fine-tuning. I am ready to share my new organized method. Some parts may sound familiar cause I have literally tried all the routines for myspace-ing and all the things to say and what not to say. I have taken the good, ripped out the bad, and have thrown in my own ideas developed through months of trial and error. I know there are going to be people out there that disagree with parts of my method but hey, this is what works for me, every time. I am fully open to any and all opinions about this routine. Changes can be made. If you have specific questions or need help with responses feel free to PM me and I will help in any ways I can.
Here it is¦Heartwork's Myspace Method
Step one: Find a Target
Say you have a hot friend, turns out she has hot friends in her top 8. Pick the hottest and game her using this routine. Be sure not to use it again on anyone else in her top 8 without changing the routine or your game could leak and they will be on to you.
***The good thing about this routine is that you can change all the lines to how you feel best fits you, just take this method as somewhat of a “guideline�***
Step two: Open to the Target
First off do not send her a friend invite yet, she will either do it or you can do it once she responds to your opener.
I have tried just about every online opener out there and I find that this one works the best:
Subject: Hey you know what…
Body: I was reading your profile, and I saw that you like
sparkles, glitter, pink nail polish, and shopping.
Ya know what? Me too!!! Let's hang out.
The most common response to get is “haha sounds good : )� so if you don’t know what to expect using that opener, that’s what you can plan for.
***I personally find the subjects don’t really matter all that much. I don’t care if she gets a million a day. She likes the reassurance of chumps calling her hot, she will never message them back but she will open every message looking for that “hey baby your so fine.� That’s why myspace could better be known as “fuckspace� It’s filled with chumps and for us PUA, its like shooting fish in a barrel. Oh yeah and you have to change the opener according to her profile, works best on girly girls. ***
Step 3: Getting her to talk (A,B,C routine)
Step three just happens to be a routine involving three different questions that create somewhat meaningful conversation. Although I will provide example questions I do highly suggest you find your own, once again this method is set up so you can do so.
A) At this point she has responded to your opener, and either has or hasn’t sent you a myspace friend invite, it doesn’t really matter.
First you should throw in a small neg. I usually accuse them of being some kind of crazy myspace killer. Then mention how you would like to become better friends before you meet up. Then initiate the first question. It doesn’t really matter what it is, it’s meant to be a meaningless, just make it a question she can respond to and add “how about you?� It can be anything, like what’s your favorite color, favorite animal, favorite flower. I use those because lots of sites with symbolism can be found that represents colors, animals and flowers, you can turn it into a nice cold read in your next response.
Example after opener (already sent me a friend invite)
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
haha yeah sounds good
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heartwork
Well, you know, before we even think of hanging out we should probably become better friends, I mean I got to make sure you’re not some crazy 55 year old man that kidnaps people on myspace ; ). I appreciate you sending me a friend invite but without communication, this friendship is going nowhere, and that would be a real shame, so here it goes…
What’s your all-time favorite animal?
Just wait till you here mine!
End of example
***Notice I used a smiley face while negging, use those and “haha’s� they are your friends and the only way to express emotions online. Also notice how I add, “Just wait till you here mine!� this forces her to say my favorite animal is _____ what’s yours? ***
B) Once she gives her answer to your question from A, sound interested like you are into it to, she will ask you the same question in return so have a good short story to follow it up, nothing to long though. If you used my suggested questions you can go to this web site (http://members.tripod.com/~onespiritx/magick18.htm) to help you develop a cold reading that complies with her answer. Once you have done that add a future projecting question to the bottom of the message, there are tons out there; they are all great so change it up a little. Find which one you like best.
Example
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
Haha = )
my favorite animal is a cat.
what is yours per chance?
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heartwork
haha nice, I love cats. You're already like my best friend in the world! I heard people that like cats tend to be mysterious just like cats. And although they may put off a weak image they can be rather independent and stand up for themselves when forced. The only problem is I bet you get easily distracted.
My favorite animal is... dum dum dummmm... the lion. (ironically its also a kind of cat haha) I know it's a common choice, but I really think lions live sweet lives. They're the king of the jungle, they're really strong and ferocious, and they just chill all day being lazy. I think they're great. Plus they can do that crazy roar which is VERY loud. I'm intimidated whenever I watch a movie produced by MGM, because of the lion.
Anyway, Here’s the next question, When we go on a road trip, where are we going and why?
End of example
***I totally ripped off that lion story off from a field report by Luff, thanks man it works wonders. Also if I were to do this again I would shorten the message up a little bit, it just happens to be that in this example I left a longer response, but she later told me she loved how I left good full responses instead of short stupid lines like most guys, so I guess sometimes bigger really is better.***
C) While you are waiting for a response, go off and neg her best picture. Once she gets back to you tell her about how her response to your future projection is to similar to something you would say and how it will never work out. Make it sound like you guys have been together before. Keep things funny and interesting. The last question you ask should be a question that makes her tell a story. Don’t worry about the importance of the story, it’s irrelevant to the next step. Also let her know if she wants to keep talking to you she’s gonna have to do a better job of keeping the conversation up or your gonna loose interest.
Example
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
haha =) OMFG I DO HAVE LIKE THE WORST ADD, JUST LIKE A CAT! OMG
neways, were goin on a road trip! NICE = ) lol
we should def go to vegas to win lots of money, and we can go see blue man group! then we can get a quickie marriage!!! Hehe
x x x x
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heartwork
Ha! I love blue man group, were way to similar for a road trip, the car ride would be awful, we would just agree on everything and conversation would be lame and we would end up bitter, and you would pressure me into gambling all my money away. Clearly your rushing me into a marriage I’m not ready for and with my new gambling problem and your ADD you would end up running off with the best looking Elvis impersonator you could find. Hopefully there are quickie divorces across the street from the chapel, quickest marriage ever!
At least we gave it a shot : )
Okay I’m getting sick of asking you all these questions, your asking the next one!!! So here is my last one…
What is the most exiting thing you have done this summer?
End of Example
*** I did have a good tip for C but I cant think of it, anyone else know some good future projection questions, I think they are great, makes the girl imagine hanging out with you and having a ton of fun.***
Step 4: Getting her SN
Okay this is the easiest step but you have to be careful cause IM can fuck with your game, only use it when needed unless you are damn good at keeping an IM conversation without giving away to much personal info or being boring. Your done with the question game for now, don’t drag it onto AIM. Some people think you should not use AIM at all but if you want to GARENTEE that you get the number than I highly suggest it! Once she gets back to you with some exciting story just disregard it if you want, some story about how she bruised her stomach water tubing or got drunk with her girlfriend’s really doesn’t matter at this point. You can give her a small neg about the story, just don’t get to into it or type back an exciting story, just let her know you don’t have enough time to wait for messages and ask if she has a screen name. She will give you it, if she already has it in her profile just IM her and let her know you got tired of sending messages via myspace. Have a small conversation with her then sign off.
Example
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
Ajahahha your soo funny : )
Oh god well lets see, I was at the mall with my girlfriend lucy and we were in victorias secret and I look over and I realized she was puttting one of those new IPEX bras into her purse……that bitch was trying to steal them!!! Hehe then she grabbed me and was like RUNN and we ran out the door and the alarms went off!!!! I almost peed my pants lolz then we had to spend the whole day in the mall security center yeah sorry someof my friends are crazt, imnot a thief thou lol
So whats the crazzzziest thing you have done?? ; )
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heartwork
…you got caught stealing panties, wow you guys are losers : )
I’m getting tired of this myspace shit, I prefer my messages to be more “instant�, you got a screen name?
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
Yuppers! It’s XoiamGoingToBangHeartworkButIDontKnowItYetXO
(that’s obviously not her sn, don’t try Iming it haha)
AIM CONVO A FEW MINS LATER (went something like this)
Me: hey you
HB: heyy!
Me: I gotta go soon cause I got work early tomorrow, I’m just seeing what’s up
HB: aw nmu?
Bla bla bla
Me: Alright I gotta go now
HB: alright nice talkin to ya! Cya later
End of Example
***This is not necessary, but I like to do it when I want to guarantee everything goes smoothly. I will run my game on her later at night so by the time I get her screen name its really late. This way I just talk to her shortly and leave, she will be thinking about me long after I leave cause its late and not much is going on if she’s at her comp this late. It doesn’t even have to be that late but once you sign off on her I recommend, but not necessary, that you wait till the next day to talk to her, this is when you get the number. Oh and by the way you can get her screen name WHENEVER you want, but I don’t really like IM’s cause it can turn you into that lame IM buddy and that becomes pathetic annoying online buddy that will have her ignoring your “hey.� To get a girls screen name you don’t even have to open if that’s all your really want, just say “Hey, you seemed like a cool person but I hate talking through myspace, what’s your screen name?� But that’s pretty AFC. Play the myspace game, not the IM game, unless you like awkward pauses filled with meaningless haha’s and yea’s or even dun dun dun….brb’s!***
Step 5: Getting her number
Here is the climax of your online gaming, you get the number then its smooth sailing till the meet up as long as you are smart. If you followed my method and stuck to its guidelines then you are a couple of IM’s away from a # close. If you followed my advice about waiting till the next day to talk to her then so far you should have only talked on myspace and had a short convo on AIM. (Just a little recap) IM her again and strike up a nice conversation, it doesn’t even really have to be that good, just be talking. Then half way through, say alright well I don’t have time to sit at the comp all day but if you give me your number we can continue this lovely conversation later. She will give you the number. I don’t need to provide an example, I basically just told you word to word what to do.
***I have compared getting numbers on AIM to getting numbers on myspace, Literally EVERY time I have asked for a number on AIM I have gotten it, but I’d say only about half the time I have gotten them through a message on myspace. I have a whole collection of idea’s of why it happens to be this way, but point is, use IM to get the numbers, then you can just stick to phone and email game.***
Step 6: “Calling to say what’s up�
People have all different views on calling girls, some say only do it to plan a meet up and that calling a girl just for the hell of it is AFCish. She gave you her number, she wants you to call, doesn’t matter what the circumstance may be, she wants you to call! For a girl to agree to meeting up with someone they have met online they need to feel safe and familiar with you, a friendly phone call does just that. So give her a call, be sure to put a time constraint on right from the start and have a good conversation. Don’t let things get awkward and don’t let her leave before you do. Tell her about fun places and fun times you have had and how fun it would have been if she were there. Make her visualize hanging out with you, make sure she knows hanging out with you will lead to a good time. You can even say that you will be too much for her to handle and won’t be able to keep up with the crazy things you do when you’re having fun. Be a party! Then leave, say you have to go and hang up. She will notice that you took those good feelings she was having just a minuet ago away with you when you hung up.
***Your phone call is kind of your first impression, read David D’s articles on “Voice Tones� Develop a calm and suave voice. And BE INTERESTING!***
Step 7: Back to myspace/planning out the meet up.
Like I said before try to avoid the IM convos, if she IM’s you then talk for a bit, she IM’s you later that day or the next, ignore it, she will be all the more surprised and happy to see your inviting her to hang out. Leave her a myspace message letting her know you are planning on going to _______ to do _______. Do not put a time and date on yet, first just see if she’s interested. Then once she says yes tell her when you were thinking of doing it and give her some time frame but tell her you have to go and you will call her with further details later.
Example
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heartwork
Hey you, I’m really want to find a time to go see that new Will Ferral movie, you should come!
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
Ah that movie looks soo effin funny!! I really want see it too, how’s this weekend sound???
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heatwork
I think I’m free for most of it, ill call you with further details
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
Sounds good! : )
Xoxox
End of Example
*** The reason I don’t mention a time and date right away is to make sure she’s not busy, if I said I want to go see the new Will Ferral movie on Thursday afternoon and she said she cant make it for some reason or another and she doesn’t tell me another time then I may come off as needy and seem like I have nothing better to do if I ask again with a different time.***
(oh and for all the kids wondering at home, this is a real convo, the girl is real and she is a HB 9.5, her boobs could be a tad bigger but that’s it. Anyway, we did meet up and see the movie, and no I do not know how it ends, I was “preoccupied� through the whole second half ; ) I have a date with one of her friends next week, I used the same format on her, whole new set of questions, hopefully they don’t catch on hehe. I think I’m starting to get greedy)
Step 8: DON’T FUCK UP
I have seen people blow it here so listen! You set up a date, you still got days in between, avoid AIM. Stick to phone and email, if she’s been a cooperative girl, give her a myspace comment or two make sure they are all good and creative. And when you first meet in person SHOW SOME FUCKING ENTHUSIASIM, give her a hug right away, you got a lot of kino to make up for if you don’t you are in for an awkward evening, and If I ever hear you start the conversation with…�soo� (and look around awkwardly) I will find you and smack you, you’re better than that, you have days to prepare for the meet up, online game is cake, you still need a sharp IRL game if you plan on getting with her, the way I see it, the game has just begun.
I really hope this helps everyone out, I look forward to all your feedback!
Love,
Heartwork

20/04/08 Starting A Fresh

I need to do more day approaches starting on Monday on the way to work. I'm sick off putting this off, I'm never going to get better if I don't start manning up and doing something to get this aspect of my life sorted out once and for all. I must endeavor to get good at this, no more theory only practical from now on.

I'll get good at daygame first and then I'll use the confidence I gain from that to get good at nightgame. I must start doing one approach a day on the way to work to get over my approach anxiety because through general inaction on my part I've only done about 10/15 approaches in the last 3 1/2 months and I've regressed somewhat back to my old self due to being more focused on 3 specific girls and not on the task as a whole.

This is the only way I'm going to get better is by getting out there and practising and putting myself out there.

Tasks for this week:
Do one approach a day.
Remember to Smile.
Remember to make strong eye contact.

We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.

“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”
–Randy Pausch

This is the “Last Lecture” by Randy Pausch. Pausch is a professor at Carnegie Mellon University (CMU). In 2006 he was diagnosed with cancer, and in August 2007 was told he only had three to six months left to live. On September 18, 2007 he gave his “Last Public Lecture”, entitled “Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams”



Wow if I ever feel like I don't want to approach anymore or I'm not getting to where I want to be fast enough, I really need to watch this video and realise I only get one chance at life and I really dont want to waste it by failing to go after what I really want in life and getting to where I want to be.

A sudden realisation

I noticed something really interesting yesterday while shopping at the Trafford Centre with a friend. I was standing at the top of a spiral staircase overlooking a large central area and something occurred to me from what I observed. Women want to be approached and hit-on. Standing there seeing the way they'd dressed just to go shopping and the amount of effort it must have taken each of them to get ready before going out. It could be argued that women may make the effort to impress other women and thus increase their own social status but I'm reminded of this quote from the movie Hitch:

No woman wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today!"

I think that quote rings true in these sort of situations, even if they are primarily doing it to impress other women (and I'm not saying they are) there is in the back of her mind the lingering possibility that she may have the opportunity to meet someone special today so she'd better make sure she looks her best.

This is something I need to keep in mind when I start to feel the fear of the approach.

My List

Carlos Xuma stated in one of the Approach Anxiety podcasts the best way for a guy to realise his worth and to stop putting women on a pedestal (and be generally more comfortable around them) is to make a list of your good qualities to help the guy in question realise that he has a lot to offer anyone anywhere. I think the idea is to be as ego centric as possible. With that in mind here's my list.

Hobbies
Hanging out with friends.
Playing Football (Soccer).
Swimming.
Keeping Fit.
Walking My Dog.
Graphic Design / Web Design.
Learning To Play Guitar.
Reading.
Watching Movies/ DVD's.
Listening to Music.
Watching TV
Playing Games

Skills
Cooking.
Drawing/Art.
Being Creative.

Personality
Humorous.
Outgoing.
Confident.
Social.
Intelligant (misspelled on purpose).
Extroverted.
Good sense of humor.
Generous.
Thoughtful.
Interesting.
Creative.

Below is a really good article on Flirtatious body language over at justaguything.com.

Following on from the previous article Five Signs She Doesn’t Like You (And Will Break Your Heart) we can now look at the open gestures which are usually a good indication that she’s interested in you (but is possibly playing hard to get!)

The Five Open Gestures

Gesture 1 – The Butterfly

The butterfly is the gesture she makes after you’ve made eye contact with her across a crowded room. Essentially, the eye contact is a call-to-action. You want to see some sort of reaction from her to show that she is interested or attracted to you. Playing with her hair, adjusting her clothes or jewellery, and fiddling with her straw in her drink are all butterfly reactions. If you get any of these signs, she may well be interested in you.

Gesture 2 – The Palm Reader

Exposed wrists and palms are signs of openness and sincerity which she will present to people she is interested in. Subconsciously, she is saying “If you want me, come and get me”. This is very similar to The Pointer, whereby she will ‘point’ at you with her foot or knee (when her legs are crossed).

Gesture 3 – The Leaning Tower of Love

This gesture can be seen when she leans forward towards you. Her upper body will be facing you if she’s interested. In essence, she will lean forward and point at what she wants. Unlike the tower of Pisa, this gesture means she is not made of stone! (Too cheesy? Maybe..)

Gesture 4 – The Cheshire Cat

This is a bit of a no-brainer. If she smiles at you when you make eye contact, get over there immediately and strike up some conversation. She is very keen.

Gesture 5 – The Midas Touch

If she is touching you a number of times while you are talking, for example, tapping you on the arm when making a point, she is very interested. She’s probably not even playing that hard to get at this point, so go in for the kill!

Obviously, there are many different gestures and signals which show her interest in you, but learning the basics now will allow you to pick up the more complicated signs easily later. Once you understand the science behind body language, the gestures mentioned in this article are common sense and can be applied to many different situations in all aspects of your life.

Being more creative & artistic

Although this blog is mainly focused on getting better in one main area of my life (I wonder if by my previous posts you can guess which one) I also want it to focus on other aspects of my life as well. I want to use this blog as a way to give myself that push to go out and achieve all my goals in life and in the process hopefully become a more exciting, well rounded person.

Some of the goals that I have are simple thing such as learn to play the guitar and try sushi (every time I've gone to try in the past it's always looks so inedible and disgusting) to things like bungee jumping, skydiving and leaning to snowboard.

One of the goals that I have is to be more artistic and get better at using Photoshop (I work with it everyday so its about time I started to use it to its full potential). I even bought myself a Wacom Graphire 3 tablet as a graduation present for myself when I finished University and I've hardly used it. So I really want to get better at digital art. As you can see from the photo to the right I'm currently colouring a line art that I found by doing a GIS (google image search). One day I hope to be as good as the guy in the below videos.

Inking Ultimate Spider-Man

Coloring Ultimate Spider-Man

Some rapport building questions

Here are some questions that will help build rapport with a girl and help her open up to you so you can both establish a connection.

1. If you could go anywhere in the world on holiday where would it be? Why?
2. How do you guys all know each other? (if shes in a group)
3. How long have you all known each other?
4. What would your dream house look like? (stolen from Dane Cook)

The above questions would be a good primer before going into the Deep Rapport Questions I detailed in a previous post.

Affirmations

An affirmation is a form of autosuggestion in which a statement of a desirable intention or condition of the world or the mind is deliberately meditated on and/or repeated in order to implant it in the mind.

Basically to break it down into layman's terms the human brain is easily reprogrammed (persuaded). So if you tell yourself something, in thise case that I'm super confident enough times I will actually start to believe it as being factual. Whenever I feel low on self confidence or low on self esteem I will utter the below 3 sentences in my head to bring me back into my positive confident state:

1. I'm perfectly fine on my own. Having a woman in my life isn't what defines me.
   
2. I make No apologies for my existence.
3. I am a Handsome, Outgoing & Confident person.
4. I am the Prize and the woman has to sell herself to me.

New Years Resolutions 2008

Here are some resolutions that I'm going to try and adhere to this year.

Get better at Daygame.

Be more social.

Get a stylish haircut and work on my dress style.

I'm getting really demotivated with going out at night and trying to approach girls, it's been such a hit and miss affair recently. I'm thinking getting good at Daygame will also have the knock on effect of improving my Nightgame also.

What Not To Do On New Years Day Next Year

This is just a quick note to myself in case I forget. The note is to not to bother goinging out and trying to approach girls on January 1st 2008 or any subsequently year after that. There's actually no girls around I walked around for a good hour round the shopping centres and I couldn't find a single girl to approach, there were about 3 cute shop assisstants but I'm not quite there yet where I can approach girls at work and get them interested in me quickly.