Pluses and Minuses Connected With Gi Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

There are plenty of factors for and against gi brazilian jiu-jitsu. It's essential that you understand them ahead of doing it. training Brazilian Jiu Jitsu wearing a Gi as opposed to training no-gi in a rashguard and shorts is associated with both benefits and drawbacks that you need to know about. This article explains them. You've got to know these just to be able to make the ideal evaluation for you.

Pros: Factors In Favor Of gi brazilian jiu-jitsu

1. Your guard passing will be a lot more tight a fluid if you train predominately in the Gi.

The added friction of the Gi will cause you to move slower so you will have to distribute your body weight and focus on passing while at the same time keeping your body weight pressed down on your opponent to keep them from escaping or sweeping you

2. You get the possibility of learning collar chokes and other Gi chokes which you don't get to do when training No-Gi BJJ

One other good reason for training brazilian jiu jitsu wearing a gi as opposed to training no-gi in a rashguard and shorts is you get the possibility of learning collar chokes and other gi chokes which you don't get to do when training no-gi bjj. This provides the added advantage of you having more submissions up your sleeve (literally!) which will make you a more dynamic Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu practitioner, that may eliminate making the mistake of only replying on one submissions like the rear naked choke like I did for about 6 months until all my training partners at my gym got wise and stopped giving up their backs to me.

3. Training in a Gi is the traditional way to learn brazilain Jiu-Jitsu

Next there's training in a gi is the traditional way to learn brazilain jiu-jitsu. This is important since it can help your overall game improve more than training no-gi all the time, and in many cases Gi competitiors are able to tap out no-gi competitors when shedding the gi in competition. Whenever you take that into account, then it's wise to training brazilian jiu jitsu wearing a gi as opposed to training no-gi in a rashguard and shorts.

The points above show the positive aspects of gi brazilian jiu-jitsu. There exists a down side too. Why don't we examine a few of the disadvantages.

Drawbacks: Factors Against gi brazilian jiu-jitsu

1. You don't get to practise and use certain submissions

If you ever train gi brazilian jiu-jitsu, that might produce the effect of you don't get to practise and use certain submissions like foot locks, leg locks and neck cranks. There is no way that that could be a good thing. It may well be a valid reason to prevent yourself from following through.

2. You will not burn as many calories sparring in a Gi when compared to No-Gi due to the pace being much much slower (from personal experience).

Don't get me wrong you will still burn a lot of calories from an hour of constant sparring but I estimate I burn 50 percent more calories in the same period from No-Gi

3. It is easier for opponents to stall when you're both in a gi

A final valid reason in avoiding gi brazilian jiu-jitsu is it is easier for opponents to stall when you're both in a gi. Everyone should think about this point with great care, as it might lead right to Opponets keeping you in spider guard or just holding onto your gi to keep your posture down while in their guard so you have no chance of passing if you want to training brazilian jiu jitsu wearing a gi as opposed to training no-gi in a rashguard and shorts anyway.

So that's it. We have seen and examined the pluses and minuses of gi brazilian jiu-jitsu. So it certainly is not what everyone wants and needs. Even so it will suit and help a great many. Hence think diligently about the variables already stated Hopefully your decision process is going to be aided greatly by the pro and con info presented here.

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3 Proven Methods to help with learning Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

Lots of people have started to learn Brazilian jiu-jitsu. Probably anyone who might really benefit from commencing to learn Brazilian jiu-jitsu will want to look into it. There might be significant good things about doing this if you have a situation where it could be advantageous. There are various possible variations in ways to go about it.

No strategy is so dominant that everybody uses it. There are lots of methods that each yield viable results. Whatever method you decide on is going to have good points and bad, and people who prefer it and other people that do not. Because of this it is best to first survey the many methods available. Understanding the merits and drawbacks of each method will allow you to choose wisely amongst them.

3 Proven Methods to help with learning Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

Here then is a brief survey of three of your most common approaches to learn brazilian jiu-jitsu:

1) Pick a training schedule and stick to it. The best way to get into a routine of training and ensure you stick to it is by setting one or two night a week and saying "These are the days I'm going to train". This will make you much more likely to turn up to every training session so it becomes a habit after a couple of months.

2) Expect to get tapped out a LOT. Brazilian jiu-jitsu black belt Keith Owen says to get your black belt you need to get tapped out 10,000 times. You don't learn by doing everything right, you learn by making mistakes. So fail often and fail quickly and you will find yourself progressing in no time.

3) Leave your ego at the door. I see guys training (and I am guilty of this from time to time myself) or getting frustrated when guys we used to be able to dominate easily start doing well against us or even start taping us out instead. Don't get frustrated! This is simply because you've gotten used to doing the same things over and over again and your training partners have gotten used to and have developed a way of escaping. Use this as an opportunity to start working on something else.

 Obviously there are other methods too, but these shown above are generally used and seem to be effective. Any one of them works. They're all good and in current productive use. Pick the method or blend of methods that best suits your requirements and start to learn brazilian jiu-jitsu!

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New Blog

Hey guys,

Just wanted to let you know that I have a new blog dedicated to teaching guys how to get confidence with women (click the link to go to it).

Grow your vocabulary so you have lots to say to a girl

I've read on websites and forums that some guys feel that they aren't intelligent enough to hold a conversation with a girl and that keeps them from approaching a woman that the find attractive. To these people I suggest that you start taking up a new hobby. The hobby I'm suggesting is reading books, it's a great way to grow your vocabulary and make you more intelligent.

1. Fear and Loathing in Last Vegas
Hunter S. Thompson
"We Can't stop here this is Bat Country!"

Hunter S. Thompson's seminal psychedelic classic about his road trip across Western America as he and his large Samoan lawyer searched desperately for the "American dream"... they were helped in large part by the huge amount of drugs and alcohol kept in their convertible, The Red Shark.

Raoul duke is a drug addled gonzo journalist. He is sent to cover a motorcycle race as an article for his magazine, but then the situation escalates into him and his psychotic attorney searching for the American dream, aided by almost every drug known to man in the boot of his red convertible


2. Running Man
Stephen King
"Welcome to America in 2025, when the best men don't run for president, they run for their lives"
This novel is set in a dystopian United during the year 2025, in which the nation's economy is in ruins and world violence is rising. The story follows protagonist Ben Richards, as he participates in the sadistic game show "The Running Man", in which contestants, allowed to go anywhere in the world, are chased by "Hunters", employed to kill them.

The book has a total of 101 chapters, laid out in a "countdown" format. The first is titled "Minus 100 and Counting..." and the ensuing ones are similar, with the numbers decreasing, until the last one, "Minus 000 and Counting" (or, in some versions, merely "000").

3. American Psycho
Brett Easton Ellis
The book is a satirical take on 80's yuppies, and how empty headed and essentially shallow they are, about how far too much time thinking and talking about money coupled with far too little imagination can cause you to begin to shrink your world, until you live in such a self indulgent cocoon, you cannot even spot the raving, murdering lunatic in your midst.

One of the best scene's in the movie.

Developing Your Inner Game by Cajun

This is a very inspirational post by Cajun on Inner game and your own personal belief system. I wanted to post it here so I could re-read it over and over again until the mindset sinks in.

Developing Inner Game by Cajun

Inner game is probably one of the most popular subjects in the community. It’s a major sticking point for nearly everyone who has trouble talking to women and it’s a problem that can be difficult to fix as well, since it tends to be rooted in a lifetime’s worth of negative beliefs that are based on things like fear and rejection. Inner game is also a topic that I think can only be discussed from a personal level, that is, I can’t convince you how to think or look at life differently, only you can, but I can tell you how I overcame the very same problems, and hope that you can learn from my experiences.

So what is it?

To me, inner game problems boils down to two things: your experience and your mindset. Every problem you run into with not just women, but life itself, can be attributed to one of these two areas. I’m going to get into both of these, and give some personal insights, so hopefully by the end of this article you’ll have a clearer understanding of what exactly it is that you need to work on to fix your own issues.

Experience:

When people ask me how I developed my “Rock solid confidence”, I always answer the same; “Practice”. When you think about what confidence actually is you realize that its simply doing something that you’ve done enough times to be comfortable with. It’s only when were thrown into situations that are unfamiliar to us that we start to lose confidence in ourselves. The sad and somewhat ironic reality is that most men are not comfortable talking to women simply because they don’t talk to women! It’s a negative feedback loop that’s perpetuated by a fear of “what might go wrong”. This is bullshit! To be scared of the possible negative outcomes is to be scared of the very thing that enables you to get better!

Think about it this way; when you were learning to ride a bike, were you too scared to get on because of a fear that you might fall down? Maybe, but you got on anyway because you saw how much fun all the other kids were having, even then you realized that the reward was worth the risk. Well this is the same thing, I remember when I first started out with this stuff I used to get drinks thrown in my face, told off, or simply ignored. The first few weeks were rough; it took me a while before I got used to rejection enough that I could understand where I went wrong. Getting used to rejection isn’t easy, but the best advice I can give you is to simply accept it, don’t get mad at her or yourself, don’t go home, just accept that it’s a completely normal, and necessary part of the learning process. You can’t make an omelette without breaking some eggs. The sooner you realize that rejection is a necessary evil, the sooner you can come to terms with it and move past it.

Mind Set:

Most of us grew up in a society that believed in a 2 concentric circle model of reality. That is, the outer circle being reality, or the world around us, and the inner circle being our consciousness. We experience the outer circle; reality, through our inner circle; our consciousness. This is how we believed reality worked; that our consciousness was independent of it…but recently this all changed.

We are now learning through quantum physics that reality is actually the inner circle, and that our consciousness is the outer circle. That is; reality exists inside our mind, we create our own reality with our thoughts (Or beliefs, if you’d rather).

What does this mean?

As far as any of us know, there may only be 1 reality; your own. Who’s to say I’m not a figment of your imagination, your reality, writing this entire article out to send a message to YOU, from your subconscious mind. It’s possible.

The truth is, whether any of us actually exist or not is irrelevant. Life is a game, and it’s a game that a lot of people are scared to play. Don’t be one of them.

I recently received an email from a student of mine asking about the power of beliefs, and how they work. I replied with the following:

“Think of it this way: what if, let’s say, 15 years from now programmers invent this computer game that is virtually identical to reality. The AI is so smart you can’t tell it’s not a real person. The five senses are so accurately programmed that there is no detectable difference to reality. Now, you get to play this game, but the programmer tells you some hints on how to play, he says this:

“This software is programmed to work intuitively with your brain. So, if you want to be, let’s say, a rich Casanova in the game, then all you have to do is believe that you ARE a rich Casanova, and you will become one. The trick is you have to actually believe it, and then the program takes care of the rest. In fact you can have, and be anything you want in this program as long as you ask for it using these “beliefs”. Think of it as your “console hack”"

I’m sure you saw this coming, but this “game” already exists and it’s called reality. You become who you believe you are.”

Sound a little like the matrix? Well that’s ok, like I said; I can only give advice on inner game from my own personal perspective and this is simply how I believe reality works.

I’ll end this article with something that I’ve never written about before:

I remember the very night that I became good at attracting women, I remember because I had an epiphany that night and it was so mind-blowing that I had to write it down as soon as I came home. It has since become my mantra, and I know that if down the road I ever forget everything that I’ve learned in the past few years, all I will have to do is read this piece of paper and it will all come back. What does the paper say?

“The secret to becoming amazing at attracting women is…to remember that you already are.”

Your welcome,

Cajun.

I've not updated this for a long time

Hey I realised today I haven't updated this blog in quite a while so I wanted to let you know what I was up to.

- I finally joined a gym and I feel a lot fitter because of it.

- I've been working in the last few months at expanding and gaming my social circle and I'm starting to see an improvement. Girls are giving me IOI's after only a short time in conversation because I'm now comfortable kinoing & teasing them from the very beginning.

- My self confidence is a lot stronger and more rock solid than its ever been before. My inner game seems to have gotten a lot stronger recently which I'm really pleased about.

- I'm also casually dating a girl I met in a club a month or so ago.

As you can see things are going a lot better than they were three months ago. I can feel myself getting stronger (both mentally and physically) it feels like I'm in some realistic RPG video game. I just need to keep levelling up

Heartwork's Myspace Method

Taken from: http://www.theattractionforums.com/forum/showthread.php?t=32638

All right, I have an injured ankle so I haven't got out as much as I would like lately. I figured this would be a great time to perfect my online game. I feel I have somewhat done that now and after months of fine-tuning. I am ready to share my new organized method. Some parts may sound familiar cause I have literally tried all the routines for myspace-ing and all the things to say and what not to say. I have taken the good, ripped out the bad, and have thrown in my own ideas developed through months of trial and error. I know there are going to be people out there that disagree with parts of my method but hey, this is what works for me, every time. I am fully open to any and all opinions about this routine. Changes can be made. If you have specific questions or need help with responses feel free to PM me and I will help in any ways I can.
Here it is¦Heartwork's Myspace Method
Step one: Find a Target
Say you have a hot friend, turns out she has hot friends in her top 8. Pick the hottest and game her using this routine. Be sure not to use it again on anyone else in her top 8 without changing the routine or your game could leak and they will be on to you.
***The good thing about this routine is that you can change all the lines to how you feel best fits you, just take this method as somewhat of a “guideline�***
Step two: Open to the Target
First off do not send her a friend invite yet, she will either do it or you can do it once she responds to your opener.
I have tried just about every online opener out there and I find that this one works the best:
Subject: Hey you know what…
Body: I was reading your profile, and I saw that you like
sparkles, glitter, pink nail polish, and shopping.
Ya know what? Me too!!! Let's hang out.
The most common response to get is “haha sounds good : )� so if you don’t know what to expect using that opener, that’s what you can plan for.
***I personally find the subjects don’t really matter all that much. I don’t care if she gets a million a day. She likes the reassurance of chumps calling her hot, she will never message them back but she will open every message looking for that “hey baby your so fine.� That’s why myspace could better be known as “fuckspace� It’s filled with chumps and for us PUA, its like shooting fish in a barrel. Oh yeah and you have to change the opener according to her profile, works best on girly girls. ***
Step 3: Getting her to talk (A,B,C routine)
Step three just happens to be a routine involving three different questions that create somewhat meaningful conversation. Although I will provide example questions I do highly suggest you find your own, once again this method is set up so you can do so.
A) At this point she has responded to your opener, and either has or hasn’t sent you a myspace friend invite, it doesn’t really matter.
First you should throw in a small neg. I usually accuse them of being some kind of crazy myspace killer. Then mention how you would like to become better friends before you meet up. Then initiate the first question. It doesn’t really matter what it is, it’s meant to be a meaningless, just make it a question she can respond to and add “how about you?� It can be anything, like what’s your favorite color, favorite animal, favorite flower. I use those because lots of sites with symbolism can be found that represents colors, animals and flowers, you can turn it into a nice cold read in your next response.
Example after opener (already sent me a friend invite)
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
haha yeah sounds good
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heartwork
Well, you know, before we even think of hanging out we should probably become better friends, I mean I got to make sure you’re not some crazy 55 year old man that kidnaps people on myspace ; ). I appreciate you sending me a friend invite but without communication, this friendship is going nowhere, and that would be a real shame, so here it goes…
What’s your all-time favorite animal?
Just wait till you here mine!
End of example
***Notice I used a smiley face while negging, use those and “haha’s� they are your friends and the only way to express emotions online. Also notice how I add, “Just wait till you here mine!� this forces her to say my favorite animal is _____ what’s yours? ***
B) Once she gives her answer to your question from A, sound interested like you are into it to, she will ask you the same question in return so have a good short story to follow it up, nothing to long though. If you used my suggested questions you can go to this web site (http://members.tripod.com/~onespiritx/magick18.htm) to help you develop a cold reading that complies with her answer. Once you have done that add a future projecting question to the bottom of the message, there are tons out there; they are all great so change it up a little. Find which one you like best.
Example
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
Haha = )
my favorite animal is a cat.
what is yours per chance?
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heartwork
haha nice, I love cats. You're already like my best friend in the world! I heard people that like cats tend to be mysterious just like cats. And although they may put off a weak image they can be rather independent and stand up for themselves when forced. The only problem is I bet you get easily distracted.
My favorite animal is... dum dum dummmm... the lion. (ironically its also a kind of cat haha) I know it's a common choice, but I really think lions live sweet lives. They're the king of the jungle, they're really strong and ferocious, and they just chill all day being lazy. I think they're great. Plus they can do that crazy roar which is VERY loud. I'm intimidated whenever I watch a movie produced by MGM, because of the lion.
Anyway, Here’s the next question, When we go on a road trip, where are we going and why?
End of example
***I totally ripped off that lion story off from a field report by Luff, thanks man it works wonders. Also if I were to do this again I would shorten the message up a little bit, it just happens to be that in this example I left a longer response, but she later told me she loved how I left good full responses instead of short stupid lines like most guys, so I guess sometimes bigger really is better.***
C) While you are waiting for a response, go off and neg her best picture. Once she gets back to you tell her about how her response to your future projection is to similar to something you would say and how it will never work out. Make it sound like you guys have been together before. Keep things funny and interesting. The last question you ask should be a question that makes her tell a story. Don’t worry about the importance of the story, it’s irrelevant to the next step. Also let her know if she wants to keep talking to you she’s gonna have to do a better job of keeping the conversation up or your gonna loose interest.
Example
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
haha =) OMFG I DO HAVE LIKE THE WORST ADD, JUST LIKE A CAT! OMG
neways, were goin on a road trip! NICE = ) lol
we should def go to vegas to win lots of money, and we can go see blue man group! then we can get a quickie marriage!!! Hehe
x x x x
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heartwork
Ha! I love blue man group, were way to similar for a road trip, the car ride would be awful, we would just agree on everything and conversation would be lame and we would end up bitter, and you would pressure me into gambling all my money away. Clearly your rushing me into a marriage I’m not ready for and with my new gambling problem and your ADD you would end up running off with the best looking Elvis impersonator you could find. Hopefully there are quickie divorces across the street from the chapel, quickest marriage ever!
At least we gave it a shot : )
Okay I’m getting sick of asking you all these questions, your asking the next one!!! So here is my last one…
What is the most exiting thing you have done this summer?
End of Example
*** I did have a good tip for C but I cant think of it, anyone else know some good future projection questions, I think they are great, makes the girl imagine hanging out with you and having a ton of fun.***
Step 4: Getting her SN
Okay this is the easiest step but you have to be careful cause IM can fuck with your game, only use it when needed unless you are damn good at keeping an IM conversation without giving away to much personal info or being boring. Your done with the question game for now, don’t drag it onto AIM. Some people think you should not use AIM at all but if you want to GARENTEE that you get the number than I highly suggest it! Once she gets back to you with some exciting story just disregard it if you want, some story about how she bruised her stomach water tubing or got drunk with her girlfriend’s really doesn’t matter at this point. You can give her a small neg about the story, just don’t get to into it or type back an exciting story, just let her know you don’t have enough time to wait for messages and ask if she has a screen name. She will give you it, if she already has it in her profile just IM her and let her know you got tired of sending messages via myspace. Have a small conversation with her then sign off.
Example
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
Ajahahha your soo funny : )
Oh god well lets see, I was at the mall with my girlfriend lucy and we were in victorias secret and I look over and I realized she was puttting one of those new IPEX bras into her purse……that bitch was trying to steal them!!! Hehe then she grabbed me and was like RUNN and we ran out the door and the alarms went off!!!! I almost peed my pants lolz then we had to spend the whole day in the mall security center yeah sorry someof my friends are crazt, imnot a thief thou lol
So whats the crazzzziest thing you have done?? ; )
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heartwork
…you got caught stealing panties, wow you guys are losers : )
I’m getting tired of this myspace shit, I prefer my messages to be more “instant�, you got a screen name?
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
Yuppers! It’s XoiamGoingToBangHeartworkButIDontKnowItYetXO
(that’s obviously not her sn, don’t try Iming it haha)
AIM CONVO A FEW MINS LATER (went something like this)
Me: hey you
HB: heyy!
Me: I gotta go soon cause I got work early tomorrow, I’m just seeing what’s up
HB: aw nmu?
Bla bla bla
Me: Alright I gotta go now
HB: alright nice talkin to ya! Cya later
End of Example
***This is not necessary, but I like to do it when I want to guarantee everything goes smoothly. I will run my game on her later at night so by the time I get her screen name its really late. This way I just talk to her shortly and leave, she will be thinking about me long after I leave cause its late and not much is going on if she’s at her comp this late. It doesn’t even have to be that late but once you sign off on her I recommend, but not necessary, that you wait till the next day to talk to her, this is when you get the number. Oh and by the way you can get her screen name WHENEVER you want, but I don’t really like IM’s cause it can turn you into that lame IM buddy and that becomes pathetic annoying online buddy that will have her ignoring your “hey.� To get a girls screen name you don’t even have to open if that’s all your really want, just say “Hey, you seemed like a cool person but I hate talking through myspace, what’s your screen name?� But that’s pretty AFC. Play the myspace game, not the IM game, unless you like awkward pauses filled with meaningless haha’s and yea’s or even dun dun dun….brb’s!***
Step 5: Getting her number
Here is the climax of your online gaming, you get the number then its smooth sailing till the meet up as long as you are smart. If you followed my method and stuck to its guidelines then you are a couple of IM’s away from a # close. If you followed my advice about waiting till the next day to talk to her then so far you should have only talked on myspace and had a short convo on AIM. (Just a little recap) IM her again and strike up a nice conversation, it doesn’t even really have to be that good, just be talking. Then half way through, say alright well I don’t have time to sit at the comp all day but if you give me your number we can continue this lovely conversation later. She will give you the number. I don’t need to provide an example, I basically just told you word to word what to do.
***I have compared getting numbers on AIM to getting numbers on myspace, Literally EVERY time I have asked for a number on AIM I have gotten it, but I’d say only about half the time I have gotten them through a message on myspace. I have a whole collection of idea’s of why it happens to be this way, but point is, use IM to get the numbers, then you can just stick to phone and email game.***
Step 6: “Calling to say what’s up�
People have all different views on calling girls, some say only do it to plan a meet up and that calling a girl just for the hell of it is AFCish. She gave you her number, she wants you to call, doesn’t matter what the circumstance may be, she wants you to call! For a girl to agree to meeting up with someone they have met online they need to feel safe and familiar with you, a friendly phone call does just that. So give her a call, be sure to put a time constraint on right from the start and have a good conversation. Don’t let things get awkward and don’t let her leave before you do. Tell her about fun places and fun times you have had and how fun it would have been if she were there. Make her visualize hanging out with you, make sure she knows hanging out with you will lead to a good time. You can even say that you will be too much for her to handle and won’t be able to keep up with the crazy things you do when you’re having fun. Be a party! Then leave, say you have to go and hang up. She will notice that you took those good feelings she was having just a minuet ago away with you when you hung up.
***Your phone call is kind of your first impression, read David D’s articles on “Voice Tones� Develop a calm and suave voice. And BE INTERESTING!***
Step 7: Back to myspace/planning out the meet up.
Like I said before try to avoid the IM convos, if she IM’s you then talk for a bit, she IM’s you later that day or the next, ignore it, she will be all the more surprised and happy to see your inviting her to hang out. Leave her a myspace message letting her know you are planning on going to _______ to do _______. Do not put a time and date on yet, first just see if she’s interested. Then once she says yes tell her when you were thinking of doing it and give her some time frame but tell her you have to go and you will call her with further details later.
Example
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heartwork
Hey you, I’m really want to find a time to go see that new Will Ferral movie, you should come!
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
Ah that movie looks soo effin funny!! I really want see it too, how’s this weekend sound???
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Heatwork
I think I’m free for most of it, ill call you with further details
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: HB
Sounds good! : )
Xoxox
End of Example
*** The reason I don’t mention a time and date right away is to make sure she’s not busy, if I said I want to go see the new Will Ferral movie on Thursday afternoon and she said she cant make it for some reason or another and she doesn’t tell me another time then I may come off as needy and seem like I have nothing better to do if I ask again with a different time.***
(oh and for all the kids wondering at home, this is a real convo, the girl is real and she is a HB 9.5, her boobs could be a tad bigger but that’s it. Anyway, we did meet up and see the movie, and no I do not know how it ends, I was “preoccupied� through the whole second half ; ) I have a date with one of her friends next week, I used the same format on her, whole new set of questions, hopefully they don’t catch on hehe. I think I’m starting to get greedy)
Step 8: DON’T FUCK UP
I have seen people blow it here so listen! You set up a date, you still got days in between, avoid AIM. Stick to phone and email, if she’s been a cooperative girl, give her a myspace comment or two make sure they are all good and creative. And when you first meet in person SHOW SOME FUCKING ENTHUSIASIM, give her a hug right away, you got a lot of kino to make up for if you don’t you are in for an awkward evening, and If I ever hear you start the conversation with…�soo� (and look around awkwardly) I will find you and smack you, you’re better than that, you have days to prepare for the meet up, online game is cake, you still need a sharp IRL game if you plan on getting with her, the way I see it, the game has just begun.
I really hope this helps everyone out, I look forward to all your feedback!
Love,
Heartwork

20/04/08 Starting A Fresh

I need to do more day approaches starting on Monday on the way to work. I'm sick off putting this off, I'm never going to get better if I don't start manning up and doing something to get this aspect of my life sorted out once and for all. I must endeavor to get good at this, no more theory only practical from now on.

I'll get good at daygame first and then I'll use the confidence I gain from that to get good at nightgame. I must start doing one approach a day on the way to work to get over my approach anxiety because through general inaction on my part I've only done about 10/15 approaches in the last 3 1/2 months and I've regressed somewhat back to my old self due to being more focused on 3 specific girls and not on the task as a whole.

This is the only way I'm going to get better is by getting out there and practising and putting myself out there.

Tasks for this week:
Do one approach a day.
Remember to Smile.
Remember to make strong eye contact.

We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.

“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”
–Randy Pausch

This is the “Last Lecture” by Randy Pausch. Pausch is a professor at Carnegie Mellon University (CMU). In 2006 he was diagnosed with cancer, and in August 2007 was told he only had three to six months left to live. On September 18, 2007 he gave his “Last Public Lecture”, entitled “Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams”



Wow if I ever feel like I don't want to approach anymore or I'm not getting to where I want to be fast enough, I really need to watch this video and realise I only get one chance at life and I really dont want to waste it by failing to go after what I really want in life and getting to where I want to be.

A sudden realisation

I noticed something really interesting yesterday while shopping at the Trafford Centre with a friend. I was standing at the top of a spiral staircase overlooking a large central area and something occurred to me from what I observed. Women want to be approached and hit-on. Standing there seeing the way they'd dressed just to go shopping and the amount of effort it must have taken each of them to get ready before going out. It could be argued that women may make the effort to impress other women and thus increase their own social status but I'm reminded of this quote from the movie Hitch:

No woman wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today!"

I think that quote rings true in these sort of situations, even if they are primarily doing it to impress other women (and I'm not saying they are) there is in the back of her mind the lingering possibility that she may have the opportunity to meet someone special today so she'd better make sure she looks her best.

This is something I need to keep in mind when I start to feel the fear of the approach.