The Gay or Straight Game

I was trying something out that I made up on the fly last night in the middle of a conversation with a girl and it worked really well so I thought I'd share it with you all.

If you're in a set and the girl you're talking to seems a bit disinterested, unresponsive, AKA only giving one sentence answers (like two of the sets I was in last night) try this and see what happens:

[Me]Hey lets play a game. You'll like this because I find girls are better at this game than most men its called Gay or Straight. We each take turns looking around the bar and point out a guy and we have to decide whether we think hes Gay or Straight.

[Her]Ok

[Me]You go first

[Her]............[long] I can't see any guys who look gay *if she happens to point out a guy (which she probably won't because girls tend to be indecisive creatures) skip to the "I think I'll go ask him" part*

[Me]What about that guy there [points]

[Her]No he definitely isn't gay.

[Me]I know that was just me testing you. What about that guy at the end of the bar [points]

[Her]Hmm I don't know he might be.

[Me]I think I'll go ask him, if he says anything I'll just say you really like him and were curious

[Her]NO! don't tell him that

Now just go over to the guy, tap him on the shoulder and just say something along the lines of "Hi buddy this girl I'm out with was wondering if you were gay because she thinks you're cute/hot/whatever and she'd be really disappointed if you were" let him answer and you can either walk back to her straight away or chat with him about anything for a minute or two
(Note: In this time your chatting to the guy she'll be wondering what your talking to him about, try and get him to laugh as well because this will make her even more curious). Now walk back over and disregard whatever he said and say:

[Me]Yeah he's straight. I told him you'd finish your drink and go over there in about 5 minutes.

[Her] Oh My God You didn't really say that did you?

[Me]Who knows what I said to him.
OR
[Me]Of course, why arn't you going over?

Then I just moved/changed the subject onto something else and I can't put into words how much her demeanor towards me had changed from before we were playing the gay or straight game.


Notes: One of the times I tried this the girl grabbed my hand and tried to hold me back from going over to the guy, that would be an excellent opportunity to get in some Kino (playful touching) to get her even more warmed up to you. I can also only really see this working at night but I suppose it may work in the day in a cafe/coffee shop, its something I'll have to try.

Hope you find this useful.

Deep Rapport Questions 1

The whole point of Open-Ended questions is to get her to give you a personal answer that is longer than one sentence and let you in to her world and what its like to be her.

Q) Tell me three things about you that a guy would find attractive. None of them can be your looks because lets face it pretty girls are a dime a dozen.

Q) If you won the lottery what would you spend the money on?

Q) What is your passion in life / What are you passionate about?

Q) What is your dream job / If you could have any job in the entire world what would it be? (and why?)

Q) What do you and your friends usually do for fun?

Q) Where did you grow up?

Q) Whats the weirdest dream you've ever had?

I really need to start asking these open ended question more often. I'm getting bored of asking the same old boring question over and over again "so what do you do? are you at college/university" "oh cool what do you do" "yadda yadda yadda". Chances are you will have to share a story/answer first before the girl does initially, but this is good because it will give her something to think about after your interaction when you aren't there, which will help make her fall in love with you.

Christmas Eve 24th Dec 2007

This is a girl that I've been flirting with on and off on the fringe of my social circle for about the last 6 months. I've known from the very beginning that she's attracted to me. it's funny I haven't seen her for about 3-4 months it's amazing that I could tell that she was attracted to me after all this time. It just goes to show how powerful kino and rapport are, if you haven't read up on kino [kino article 1 & article 2] yet I highly suggest you make that your number one priority, girls use it on us all the time so why not get educated and fire some back at them.

I can tell that this girl puts on a brave front but inside it's obvious that shes a scarred little girl. I also get the impression she was hurt pretty badly in a previous relationship that's why its hard for her to let any guy genuinely get close to her. I can also tell (plus she has admitted to me) to being very self conscious about her appearance

I could also tell it was making her question herself as to why I wasn't talking to her and basically pretending she wasn't there AKA being a challenge. Once she had noticed me it was almost like she was on pins and needles the whole time like she couldn't sit still for more than 30 seconds before she fidgeted or got up to walk around.

I also noticed she was more excited and hyper talking to me than she was talking to anyone else which meant she was obviously nervous to be around me.


Flirtatious signals
Before Contact

• Caught her looking round at me at least twice.
• Also noticed out of the corner of my eye her say something to her friend at which point her friend looked over at me presumably to see if I was looking at her.
• Noticed that her leg was crossed and her knee was pointing towards me, and unconscious flirtatious signal.
• Deliberately stepped on my foot to initiate contact, I'd normally put this down to a simple accident but she's done this to me before to start a conversation twice.
• Her entire demeanor changed when she noticed I was there because when she initially approached to talk to her friend she seemed relatively calm and quite but when she sat down and finally she noticed me I notices that she got all giddy and excited, and there were suddenly loud outbursts of laughter
  

After Contact

• She instigated kino by hugging me and then proceeded to rub my arm.
• Smiled constantly.
• Laughed.
• She leaned in.
• Made eye contact.
  
• She positioned herself in such a way that my leg was in between her thighs (she was standing I was sitting) and she just happened to 'accidentally' brush her thighs against my leg 2/3 times.
• Complemented me by saying she thought 'I was amazing'. Whatever the hell that means.
  

Things I did well

• Got in lots of hand kino (4/5 prolonged touches of the hand as well as high fives)
• Used a cocky and funny opener "I'd find it really helpful if you didn't tread on my feet when you walk past" which got me a giggle.
• Told an interesting story about learning to snowboard in February and how I've always wanted to learn since I was about 16.
  
• Smiled.
• Laughed.
• Good relaxed, confident body language.
• Relaxed laid back demeanour.
• Bantered with her about her being kinda tipsy.
• Teased her about the way she babbles when she gets excited (AKA when she talks to me).
  
• Didn't act needy/desperate (I waited for her to come to me then I started the conversation)