Christmas Eve 24th Dec 2007

This is a girl that I've been flirting with on and off on the fringe of my social circle for about the last 6 months. I've known from the very beginning that she's attracted to me. it's funny I haven't seen her for about 3-4 months it's amazing that I could tell that she was attracted to me after all this time. It just goes to show how powerful kino and rapport are, if you haven't read up on kino [kino article 1 & article 2] yet I highly suggest you make that your number one priority, girls use it on us all the time so why not get educated and fire some back at them.

I can tell that this girl puts on a brave front but inside it's obvious that shes a scarred little girl. I also get the impression she was hurt pretty badly in a previous relationship that's why its hard for her to let any guy genuinely get close to her. I can also tell (plus she has admitted to me) to being very self conscious about her appearance

I could also tell it was making her question herself as to why I wasn't talking to her and basically pretending she wasn't there AKA being a challenge. Once she had noticed me it was almost like she was on pins and needles the whole time like she couldn't sit still for more than 30 seconds before she fidgeted or got up to walk around.

I also noticed she was more excited and hyper talking to me than she was talking to anyone else which meant she was obviously nervous to be around me.


Flirtatious signals
Before Contact

• Caught her looking round at me at least twice.
• Also noticed out of the corner of my eye her say something to her friend at which point her friend looked over at me presumably to see if I was looking at her.
• Noticed that her leg was crossed and her knee was pointing towards me, and unconscious flirtatious signal.
• Deliberately stepped on my foot to initiate contact, I'd normally put this down to a simple accident but she's done this to me before to start a conversation twice.
• Her entire demeanor changed when she noticed I was there because when she initially approached to talk to her friend she seemed relatively calm and quite but when she sat down and finally she noticed me I notices that she got all giddy and excited, and there were suddenly loud outbursts of laughter
  

After Contact

• She instigated kino by hugging me and then proceeded to rub my arm.
• Smiled constantly.
• Laughed.
• She leaned in.
• Made eye contact.
  
• She positioned herself in such a way that my leg was in between her thighs (she was standing I was sitting) and she just happened to 'accidentally' brush her thighs against my leg 2/3 times.
• Complemented me by saying she thought 'I was amazing'. Whatever the hell that means.
  

Things I did well

• Got in lots of hand kino (4/5 prolonged touches of the hand as well as high fives)
• Used a cocky and funny opener "I'd find it really helpful if you didn't tread on my feet when you walk past" which got me a giggle.
• Told an interesting story about learning to snowboard in February and how I've always wanted to learn since I was about 16.
  
• Smiled.
• Laughed.
• Good relaxed, confident body language.
• Relaxed laid back demeanour.
• Bantered with her about her being kinda tipsy.
• Teased her about the way she babbles when she gets excited (AKA when she talks to me).
  
• Didn't act needy/desperate (I waited for her to come to me then I started the conversation)